Sometimes you just know when a major life change is in order. You feel compelled to quit your job, go back to school, or move to a new city and you just go for it. Other times you don’t have such clarity and find yourself in limbo; part of you hangs around unable to move forward while another part is contemplating unexplored possibilities. If you feel that way about moving to a new city but can’t seem to make up your mind, check out these telltale signs that the time is ripe to make that move:
You feel your life is going nowhere and the future holds nothing exciting for you. This feeling could be related to your work, financial situation, social life, love life or all of the above- the more areas in your life are in a state of stagnation the more you should listen to that inner voice saying you should move.
Your Dreams are Elsewhere
You’ve been putting your passion on the back burner for too long and you’ve reached the point in which your life is just on auto-pilot. Moving to a new city will shake things up and open new opportunities for you. Some cities are natural go-to places for dreamers, like San Francisco for techies and Los Angeles for aspiring actors. What is the Mecca of your field?
You really need to get closer to- or farther away from- your family. Perhaps you’re missing your loved ones in a different part of the country and you’re at a stage in your life when you could use that special kind of family support. Or you may feel the need to venture out into the world and experience life on your own. Either way, relationships with parents and siblings play a big part when it comes to choosing where to live. Ask yourself- how much distance do you need from them at this point in your life?
You’ve never moved anywhere before, and this nagging voice inside is constantly wondering what that would be like. This kind of curiosity rarely goes away, and if you don’t follow up on your wanderlust, sooner or later you will probably wish you had.
An Inner Calling
Maybe it’s a place you’ve visited, or only heard about and watched in films and TV, but you’ve always felt compelled to go there. Your friends might find it strange, but a part of you has felt like you belong there for as long as you can remember. If you feel like a certain place has been beckoning you for ages, you should consider turning that dream into reality.
You are so done with the weather you could write a 1,000-page 19th-century style novel just to vent your frustration with it. The weather may sound like a silly reason to uproot your life, but the truth is it has a very strong impact on your health and emotional well-being. If you’ve had it up to here with the cold or the heat, the rain or the drought, it’s a good a reason as any to go where you need to go.
Too Many Bad Memories
You find yourself reliving awkward, sad or difficult moments way too many times through the course of an otherwise uneventful day. Every grocery store, nail salon and dentist’s office remind you of something or someone you don’t want to be reminded of, and you find yourself going ridiculously out of your way to avoid certain places and people. If this is the case, a fresh start in a new city could be just what the doctor ordered.
No reason to stay
There is nothing keeping you where you are; no meaningful relationships, no significant work commitments or career prospects. If you scratch your head for more than two seconds when somebody asks you why you live where you live, that’s a pretty good sign you should start packing.
You’re always dissatisfied with one thing or another about the city you live in. You complain about your neighbors, city ordinances, traffic, the weather (see #6), the price of pasta and the annoying local radio host who’s always complaining. You know what you should do, and complaining isn’t it.
Longing to Belong
You feel like an outsider and wish you could fit in, but to do that in the place you currently reside would be such a stretch you might as well opt for a personality transplant. They might be too conservative or too liberal, too artsy or too geeky; whatever their inclination-more power to them. The point is you could probably find like-minded company in a city better suited to your disposition.
Moving to a new city can be a life changing experience, but it’s not a decision to be taken lightly especially if it’s half way across the country. Look at some of the pros and cons of moving long distance.
If you were to make that move now, where would you go? Tell us in the comments…